Testgrid’s psychologists had an unusual visit this week, from Cupid – the Roman god of love himself!
After we calmed our nerves (a flying baby was an unexpected sight for a Wednesday morning), we helped Cupid to settle in and explain why he had sought out our services.
Cupid sorrowfully explained that he was tired of carrying around and shooting his magical gold-tipped arrows to help everyone ELSE fall in love. He had spent thousands of years doing this and enough was ENOUGH. He was lonely.
He had applied for Married at First Sight, but was turned down (apparently contestants must be at least 18 years old). He had considered trying a dating app, but felt that there was too much focus on physical appearance; as he poetically explained: “Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind. And therefore is winged Cupid painted blind”.
Eventually, our winged cherub came across psychometric testing. He had put together a wish list of personality traits that he longed for in a prospective partner. Apparently his mother, Venus, who believed Cupid was still too young for love, had put her foot down and insisted that he wait a few more years before he started dating. So, in the meantime, Cupid thought he would ask us how he could measure these behavioural characteristics in a partner. He wanted to be ready when it was finally his turn to find love.
1. “I want an emotionally intelligent partner. Someone who is empathetic, compassionate, and resilient (sometimes I have to go away on long flights and I want to know that they will be okay)
“Sometimes I can be a bit flighty and ‘all over-the-place’. I want to be with someone who is grounded, calm and conscientious. Someone a bit like Lauren or Cameron from Married at First Sight.”
“Someone who is friendly and sociable. I have lots of friends all over the world, and I would love my partner to meet them all and enjoy social gatherings.”
We explained to Cupid that emotional intelligence and behavioural assessments can certainly assist with measuring these characteristics. For instance, some assessments examine behavioural preferences such as:
Introversion or extroversion
Social engagement and interactivity (including preferred styles of building rapport and seeking out new friends or relationships)
Openness to new experiences
Resilience and composure
While other assessments can gauge areas like:
Tendencies towards compromise and collaboration
Decision-making and conflict resolution styles
Desire for trust and security
We advised Cupid that results from these types of assessments are ‘one piece of the puzzle’, however, and should not be relied upon as a sole indicator of whether or not an individual is his perfect match. Humans (and Roman gods, we assume) are marvellously complex creatures with varied life experiences, and cannot be reduced down to a single assessment report. We encouraged him to spend time getting to know a prospective partner, to work out whether their personality and values complement his own.
From all of us at Testgrid, we also hope that YOU have the opportunity to spend some time with loved ones this week, and wish you a very happy Valentine’s Day!